There are many aspects to health and wellbeing. One of them is healthy communication. To come to know what healthy communication is, we come to know what healthy communication is not. So, I have this topic I am integrating as I write and share today.
Lying is one of the greatest destroyers I know. It means that when we do tell the truth and it's about an important issue that needs to be heard, it cannot be heard by so many because of the filters that have overlaid the essence of the truth.
It can add insult to injury as we grapple with big topics like genocide, abuse, bullying and other scenarios where power is held over another. It's time to break through the bullshit and hold each others hearts tenderly now, so we as people, communities and beyond can heal.
I have a tendency to believe the best in people. I have an initial intuition when people are lying to me and then it has been quickly whipped away by my naive refusal to believe that someone is lying to me. This is because I find it extremely hurtful and do not want to believe that another is taking power, or using me to gain energy for themselves.
I've got to get sharper at it. I am feeling grief today, trying to be grown up about it and working out who I can and cannot trust. Many people come into our lives. After a life of too much abuse, my way out is to really grow up now and become far more discerning.
I've been a lone wolf in life, even in marriage and with partners. Recently I have been seeking my tribe, trying to work out who is trustworthy and who is not. Lying is one of the greatest insults and a subtle form of bullying and I really don't like coming up against it.
I went to a party yesterday of really lovely people and became really tired and had to leave early. I realised that it was because of a hyper alertness I still have about talking my truth to others in conversation and hearing theirs and a bit of fear of being burned if dishonesty were to creep in.
My happiest moments were holding a baby and talking to the children. I also had some encouraging conversations with a few. There are wonderful people in my community who have their hearts wide open to being the change needed in this world. These are the ones I love to be around. Unfortunately there are still those who seek to take energy and will use dishonesty as a tool to do so.
It's part of the old agenda of divide and conquer. I have no interest in it. I do my best to always stay in truth. It is a principle of 'do no harm'. We all make mistakes. We are all learning and growing. Let's remain in truth with one another, as this an aspect of unconditional love.
I desire to live in this reality and I will, as I learn and cull out the weeds of lying others from my life. It may sound tough and there is space for resolution with some, but from now on my choice is to take a solid stand that supports the new era I have chosen to live in - and so it is
Poppy Joy, writing about health from my perspective.